{"id":2029,"date":"2024-01-12T09:00:10","date_gmt":"2024-01-12T09:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/?p=2029"},"modified":"2024-01-12T17:07:59","modified_gmt":"2024-01-12T17:07:59","slug":"make-a-wish","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/2024\/01\/12\/make-a-wish\/","title":{"rendered":"Make a wish"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Dr Joseph Hawkins, Consultant in Palliative Medicine, Clinical lead for End of Life Care, Ashford and St Peter\u2019s NHS Foundation Trust. Twitter: @JoeHawk75825077<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-2034\" src=\"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/files\/2024\/01\/Jo-Hawkins-2024-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"Photo of Jo Hawkins\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/files\/2024\/01\/Jo-Hawkins-2024-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/files\/2024\/01\/Jo-Hawkins-2024-250x250.jpg 250w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I watched you get cancer,<br \/>\nAnd sadness became a sister to me.<br \/>\nEach birthday became a goal<br \/>\nBut every time the cake came out you\u2019d say no<br \/>\nWordlessly I thought you\u2019d given up,<br \/>\nA small part saying no to cake- and more.<\/p>\n<p>But now you tell me you can\u2019t blow out<br \/>\nThe candles.<br \/>\nPanicked I look at your chest<br \/>\nMy eyes X-rays in to your<br \/>\nInsides.<br \/>\nWatching your chest heave,<br \/>\nIt takes me a moment to hear your<br \/>\nBubbling laughter.<\/p>\n<p>No, you laugh again,<br \/>\nAlmost choking with humour.<br \/>\nAlways quick to see the funny side.<br \/>\n-I\u2019ve always loved that about you-<br \/>\nYou said: I just didn\u2019t want to make a wish.<\/p>\n<p>Still smiling, you say that &#8211;<br \/>\nEvery wish should be about asking for more<br \/>\nBut having cancer<br \/>\nReally made you appreciate<br \/>\nWhat you had. So you told me.<br \/>\nYou didn\u2019t need another wish.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll always remember that conversation<br \/>\nSeeing the love in your eyes<br \/>\nDespite a face that has changed so much.<br \/>\nI\u2019m not you, so I close my eyes<\/p>\n<p>And I\u2019ll always wish for one more day<br \/>\nWith you.<\/p>\n<p>Also by this author:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/2023\/10\/02\/say-you-have-to-go\/\">Say You Have To Go<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/2023\/09\/02\/the-tree-that-stands-by-my-window\/\">The Tree That Stands By My Window<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/2023\/06\/11\/im-afraid-i-have-to-go-now\/\">I&#8217;m Afraid I have To Go Now<\/a><!--TrendMD v2.4.8--><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Dr Joseph Hawkins, Consultant in Palliative Medicine, Clinical lead for End of Life Care, Ashford and St Peter\u2019s NHS Foundation Trust. Twitter: @JoeHawk75825077 I watched you get cancer, And sadness became a sister to me. Each birthday became a goal But every time the cake came out you\u2019d say no Wordlessly I thought you\u2019d [&#8230;]<\/p>\n<p><a class=\"btn btn-secondary understrap-read-more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/2024\/01\/12\/make-a-wish\/\">Read More&#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":470,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2409],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2029","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-poets-corner"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2029","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/470"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2029"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2029\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2029"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2029"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/spcare\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2029"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}