{"id":295,"date":"2015-03-19T11:52:43","date_gmt":"2015-03-19T11:52:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/quality\/?p=295"},"modified":"2015-03-19T11:52:43","modified_gmt":"2015-03-19T11:52:43","slug":"with-respect-im-going-to-challenge-you-on-that","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.bmj.com\/quality\/2015\/03\/19\/with-respect-im-going-to-challenge-you-on-that\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWith respect, I\u2019m going to challenge you on that!\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Bruce

Bruce Gray is Improvement Lead for the Strategy and Transformation Team at\u00a0Heart of England NHS Foundation Trust.<\/p><\/div>\n

We\u2019ve probably all heard people (and if we\u2019re honest, ourselves too) begin a sentence using the phrase \u201cwith respect, blah blah etc etc\u201d. That this usually happens halfway through a rapidly-heating debate gives the game away in that it\u2019s usually a coded message that says the speaker is correct and the other person is wrong and\/or an idiot.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a challenge alright, but it\u2019s not respectful! Why? Because it doesn\u2019t need an Alan Turing to break this code; people get it. They understand that they are being spoken to in a dismissive manner, indeed a disrespectful manner, and they react consciously or unconsciously by shrinking away, or possibly by upping the ante \u2013 i.e. the debate becomes a full-blown-argument of the full half-hour variety.<\/p>\n

So this respectful challenge is a tricky business. If I say, \u201cwith respect, blah blah etc etc\u201d it could come across as patronising, rude and, well, disrespectful. So what is going on under the hood \u2013 just what are the mechanics of genuinely respectful challenge?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been thinking about this because I\u2019ve been asked to deliver a couple of workshops to clinical and operational teams on \u201crespectful challenge\u201d. So writing this blog is a useful opportunity to organise my jigsaw of thoughts into a beautiful picture in which the individual pieces blend seamlessly into the whole…and, more prosaically, with a beginning<\/strong>, middle,<\/strong> and end<\/strong>, with enough material to last two hours.<\/p>\n

The \u201c<\/strong>beginning\u201d<\/strong>…<\/strong><\/h2>\n

For me this starts with having a model with which to make (some) sense of human behaviour and interactions, with my personal favourite being transactional analysis (TA). This specifically refers to the functional ego state model; the Parent-Adult-Child formulation that you may have heard of or come across. It goes like this:<\/p>\n

In our \u201cparent ego state\u201d:<\/strong> feelings, thoughts, and behaviours swallowed whole from our significant carers when young and copied. \u00a0This can be further characterised as follows:<\/p>\n

    \n
  • Negative controlling adult (bossy, blaming, aggressive)<\/li>\n
  • Positive controlling adult (inspiring, directing, protecting)<\/li>\n
  • Negative nurturing adult (smothering, inconsistent, patronising)<\/li>\n
  • Positive nurturing adult (understanding, compassionate).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    In our \u201cadult ego state\u201d:<\/strong> feelings, thoughts, and behaviours that are based on the here and now. We use our adult to reason, evaluate, gather information, and formulate strategies.<\/p>\n

    In our \u201cchild ego state\u201d:<\/strong> feelings, thoughts, and behaviours learnt as children and replayed. This can be further characterised as follows:<\/p>\n

      \n
    • Negative adapted child (anxious, rebellious, submissive)<\/li>\n
    • Positive adapted child (social, polite, considerate)<\/li>\n
    • Negative free child (egocentric, reckless, selfish)<\/li>\n
    • Positive free child (creative, expressive, playful).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      The idea here is that starting from one position can \u201chook\u201d<\/strong> a response from its complementary position, where parent is complementary to child\/child is complementary to parent, and adult is complementary to adult. So saying \u201cwith respect, blah blah\u201d (i.e. patronising) risks hooking a response from the negative adapted child ego state ranging across anxious, rebellious, or submissive, depending on the relationship and context.<\/p>\n

      The real killer is that all this goes on out of awareness and in the blink of an eye \u2013 much of the time we don\u2019t notice but our sub-conscious does and goes on to feed us the next line which ups the ante, e.g. \u201cdon\u2019t you patronise me, with your superior ways blah blah etc etc\u201d.<\/p>\n

      The way out of this nosedive is to disengage the autopilot and engage thinking, and the way to achieve that is to ask a question, which is an adult ego state thing to do, that will (hopefully, if you haven\u2019t left it too late) \u2018hook\u2019 an adult ego state response. Et voila, we are now playing the ball not the man.<\/p>\n

      The \u201c<\/strong>middle\u201d<\/strong>…<\/strong><\/h2>\n

      The \u201cOK Corral\u201d<\/strong> is another concept from TA that is incredibly useful to overlay on the functional ego state model. The essence of this is that I can consider myself as OK or Not OK, and I can consider you as OK or not OK. So if:<\/p>\n

        \n
      • I\u2019m OK, you\u2019re not OK \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0One-up position (no respect for you).<\/li>\n
      • I\u2019m not OK, you\u2019re not OK\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Hopeless position (no respect for you or me)<\/li>\n
      • I\u2019m not OK, you\u2019re OK \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0One-down position (no respect for me).<\/li>\n
      • I\u2019m OK, you\u2019re OK \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Healthy position (mutual respect \u2013 adult-adult)<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        We are constantly \u201cdecoding\u201d these positions unconsciously in ourselves and others, and it does affect our behaviours and interactions. In other words, do-as-you-would-be-done-by, and be authentic while doing it.<\/p>\n

        The \u201c<\/strong>end\u201d<\/strong>…<\/strong><\/h2>\n

        There\u2019s a dual-meaning at work here; end as in what follows middle, and end as in means to an end. There\u2019s a lot written in lean circles on respectful challenge that tracks back to the Toyota Production System. Jim Womack (co-author of \u2018The Machine That Changed the World\u2019 and \u2018Lean Thinking\u2019, as well as founder and senior advisor of the Lean Enterprise Institute) has written on Toyota and their practice of \u201crespect for people\u201d:<\/p>\n

        Managers begin by asking employees what the problem is with the way their work is currently being done. Next they challenge the employees\u2019 answer and enter into a dialogue about what the real problem is. (It\u2019s rarely the problem showing on the surface).<\/p>\n

        Then they ask what is causing this problem and enter into another dialogue about its root causes. (True dialogue requires the employees to gather evidence on the gemba \u2013 the place where value is being created \u2014 for joint evaluation).<\/p>\n

        Then they ask what should be done about the problem and ask employees why they have proposed one solution instead of another. (This generally requires considering a range of solutions and collecting more evidence).<\/p>\n

        Then they ask how they \u2013 manager and employees \u2013 will know when the problem has been solved, and engage one more time in dialogue on the best indicator.<\/p>\n

        Finally, after agreement is reached on the most appropriate measure of success, the employees set out to implement the solution.<\/p>\n

        \u2026The manager challenges the employees every step of the way, asking for more thought, more facts, and more discussion, when the employees just want to implement their favoured solution.<\/p>\n

        Does all that challenging sound like respect for people? Jim thinks so because:<\/p>\n

        …I\u2019ve come to realize that this problem solving process is actually the highest form of respect. The manager is saying to the employees that the manager can\u2019t solve the problem alone, because the manager isn\u2019t close enough to the problem to know the facts. He or she truly respects the employees\u2019 knowledge and their dedication to finding the best answer.<\/p>\n

        But the employees can\u2019t solve the problem alone either because they are often too close to the problem to see its context and they may refrain from asking tough questions about their own work. Only by showing mutual respect \u2013 each for the other and for each other\u2019s role \u2013 is it possible to solve problems, make work more satisfying, and move organisational performance to a higher level.<\/p>\n

        And I think so too because it\u2019s an approach completely congruent with the \u2018adult-to-adult ego state\u2019<\/strong> and the \u2018I\u2019m OK, you\u2019re OK\u2019<\/strong> position.<\/p>\n

        The (means to an) <\/strong>end<\/strong>…<\/strong><\/h2>\n

        Aviation safety work emphasises the flattening of hierarchy<\/strong> through the ability to speak up and be listened to<\/strong> as important factors in safely navigating high risk and crisis situations. Both of these factors are reinforced when people interact using adult-to-adult, OK-OK, respectful challenge behaviours.<\/p>\n

        But crises only happen occasionally, so focusing only on high risk and crisis situations misses the big prize of respectful challenge which is to make it part of daily practice, like Jim Womack describes above, because then it becomes an \u201cin-the-muscle\u201d thing that reinforces learning, change, and improvement because it follows the trajectory of:<\/p>\n

        Different thinking \u00a0 \u00a0 – \u00a0 \u00a0 Different behaviours \u00a0 \u00a0 –\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Different culture<\/p>\n

        Contrast this with the prevailing and static culture in many NHS organisations where, under the barrage of command and control, the default (and usually safest) response is to demur to hierarchy.<\/p>\n

        So, this is the story I will be telling in the forthcoming workshops; that understanding<\/strong>, practicing<\/strong> and expecting<\/strong> respectful challenge is of critical importance in the NHS of today and the future, because the practice is at the heart of meaningful learning, change and improvement.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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